My friend Nelda's son has passed away.

  

Remembering Shane

    Last week I could not write my blog.  There were positive things going on in our family but all I could think of is my friend Nelda who has lost her son Shane. 

 

    Nelda's world has stopped, and I could not imagine the pain she was and still is going through, I am a super empathetic person, but it is just too overwhelming to imagine her pain.  I don't think I am strong enough to endure that kind of loss. 

    

I have had friends who have lost children, I have my own Mother and have seen her experience in grief after losing my sister Jill over sixteen years ago and I know how it still affects her. 

Nelda's world will now have a before and after date of April 14th, 2024. 

This next year is going to be extremely hard for my friend.  After the funeral, most everyone will go back to their lives, but Nelda's will still be stopped, every holiday, birthday and then the anniversary of Shane's passing will be super hard.  Nelda will be needing us even though she probably won't ask for us to help because she is very independent and strong.     

I am going to do my best to be there for her.  I will pop in and let her know that I haven't gone on and forgotten what she is going through.   Life is so hard sometimes, then it is so good, and so on, we all just need to be there for each other through all the ups and downs.